As my friend was pulling into a neighborhood the other night she ended up having a good talk with the gate guard, which I was privy to hear as I was on speaker phone. In his worn out little voice he said something close to the following, "If there's one thing I have learned after all these years it's that looks fade. Don't look for someone that you think is gorgeous. Look for someone that you can laugh your way through life with. That's the secret to happiness!" Dear Jim Bob. We love you. Don't you just love people who take their jobs to the next level? Gate guard meets Dr. Phil.